Tuesday, September 14, 2010

Take a Second Look

 We all complain... sometimes it's about the weather, about the news, or maybe about all of the things that have to get done today that should have been done yesterday....and the list goes on.  Having cancer in your life sure puts a whole different perspective on things.  

Yes, there are days in our family that we think things are not going so well, but when you see others who have it sooo much worse, then it's a wake up call to appreciate everything you have.

Last week I was in a restaurant in the city having breakfast.  A couple came in who we have known for the past few months.  The husband has had cancer now for several years and recently his wife was diagnosed.  She underwent surgery and is presently on treatment.  While his wife was ordering breakfast, he whispered to me that just a few days ago, he returned to his oncologist for a medical report, only to discover now that his cancer has returned more aggressively than ever.  He is the one who is the primary caregiver to his wife so I can only imagine what an incredibly difficult situation that must be. 

We continued with breakfast and conversation and I couldn't help but notice when the waitress brought their order, that it consisted of one slice of toast and one cup of coffee.  Maybe not that unusual you might think, but after watching them share that meager breakfast, it put things into perspective for me all too well.  You see, having cancer can be very expensive with treatments, prescriptions, travel, hospital stays and apparently this couple are really finding it financially challenging.  It was very sad to see, but at the same time it made me realize that our complaints are very minimal compared to what so many others have to contend with on a daily basis.

I would never attempt to offer them any monies personally, but no doubt there will soon be an anonymous something showing up in their mailbox. 

Yes, next time I start complaining, I just need to reflect back to that encounter last week.

No matter how challenging we sometimes think our lives are, take time to take a second look as there is always someone out there who has it worse!


1 comment:

Melissa said...

Very, very true Deb.

This made me cry.