Monday, August 30, 2010

Cancer Chat Cafe

I have added a new page entitled "Cancer Chat Cafe".....just click the tab at the top to enter.  You can register and then post a question or comment to other patients/caregivers.  This chat forum is a great way to connect with others who share similiar journeys.

If no one is on the chat, please leave a comment just the same to say "hi" and before long, I promise you WILL connect with myself or others.

I'll look forward to meeting you!!!  

Deb

Appreciate Your Life

Cancer....... a six letter word that is small to look at but it brings massive life changing challenges to all those who are affected.  If I were to look back at my life before cancer appeared, things would seem very simple and what I thought to be major challenges back then, were actually just minor bumps along life's pathway.

Cancer puts your life into perspective!  Even though each person who is affected by cancer has his or her own trials to bear, we need to appreciate the simple things that sometimes we don't even realize mean the most.

Last week while my husband and I were at our local cancer clinic, I couldn't help but notice two smaller children sitting alone in the waiting room.  It's not very common to see young children in that clinic, especially without adult accompaniment.  I really felt like I should go and speak to them, but at the same time, I also felt that I didn't want to intrude.  After a short time, I saw a woman and her husband walk slowly out of the doctor's office. The children instantly walked towards them and it was easy to see that the lady was their mom and that she was not feeling well.  Her very slow steps and ashen face made it quite clear that she was the one battling cancer.

My first thought was of my daughters and how they have had their own struggles from time to time dealing with their Dad's cancer.  They were teenagers when my husband was first diagnosed and adults in their twenties when he was given that terrible news of only a ninety day longevity, but despite their more mature age, naturally cancer has affected them in so many ways.  Now as I watched these two very young children hug their mom, I could barely hold back tears as I thought of what they will endure as well throughout their mom's cancer journey.  I then heard the oldest daughter, who was a mere eight or nine ask, "When is your next chemo treatment Mommy?"     Watching something like that and hearing those words from such a young child, sure made me realize just how fortunate our family is....yes, very fortunate indeed!  That young couple not only have to deal with all the trials and tribulations that cancer brings, but also they are raising two children in the midst of their challenging health issues.  Definitely not an easy task by any means.

School starts in a week, and as I watched the faces of both these young girls, my heart sank again, to think that they had been robbed in a way from having a childhood free of all that cancer brings.  Their vocabulary now includes words like chemo, nausea, treatments, MRI's, and CT's and they will await their mom's test results and ask her daily how she feels just like us adults do.  But as I thought about it a little more, I realized that they are blessed to be together.  The young mother is so very fortunate to have her children right there with her at the end of her doctor's visit for support and encouragement, which is the best kind of therapy for any cancer patient.

Putting our lives into perspective is so important.  Cancer allows each of us to do that.  No matter how difficult our journey becomes with cancer at times, we remember that there are so many others who walk more difficult roads.

We appreciate our family life everyday and never take it for granted since cancer came into it......

I trust you will also take time to appreciate yours!!

Sunday, August 29, 2010

A Work in Progress

There has been lots of new features developed that can be added to blogs over the past few weeks, so my blog has become a work in progress.  I hope to add a few of these over time..just bear with me.

If you are a new viewer of my blog, please join in on my "Followers" section....putting up a picture is of course optional but it's always encouraging to see more additions to this part of my blog as it allows me to know that you are one of my regular readers.

I should have a new post in place later today or early tomorrow.  Have a wonderful day everyone and remember to always "Count Your Blessings"!

Tuesday, August 24, 2010

Welcome Back

It's been quite awhile since I have posted anything here and to be quite honest, I really thought I would never continue to keep posting, as I needed a much deserved break from everything associated with CANCER and summer seemed like the perfect time to do it.  You will notice that my blog layout has changed a little......I will be adding some features over the next few weeks as well. 

I did however continue to check back to my blog on occasion to see if anyone was still watching and I was humbled to see that I have such loyal viewers out there.  For those of you who continued to keep logging into my blog everyday, despite the fact that I would never write anything, you are to be commended for sure.....for your commitment and for not giving up on me!  You did make me feel very guilty for not writing, so I'm back!  Actually, thanks for giving me that little push I needed to get back here.

While I have enjoyed meeting so many wonderful people on my blog, I'm not sure if there is a lot of topics that I can actually add to what I have already written about here over the past 22 months.  There is so much that cannot be explained, but one constant that remains throughout all of my husband's journey with cancer, is that he certainly continues to amaze us all.  He has shown myself and our daughters that perseverance is the key and to work even harder when the going gets tough, rather than to just sit back and accept your fate.

I will however update you about my husband today to encourage all of you who are affected by cancer.  Yes, my husband still continues to amaze us all with his positive attitude, his never ending energy and this past summer has been his BEST summer since 2006!  I set him up on Facebook a little while ago.....why? you might ask....well, it was just another one of my many attempts to keep him inspired and it worked!  He knew nothing about computers and more especially nothing about that social network, but I thought it would be a good way to keep in touch with family and friends and it has fulfilled that purpose.

He has lost some weight since I last posted due to a bad flu earlier this summer, long hours of work and most of all due to his loss of taste buds as a result of his current cancer meds, but with the help of milkshakes, homemade egg nogs, and a try at preparing foods that encourage the taste buds, thankfully he has regained some of that weight loss.  I have read somewhere that milk may not be good for cancer patients....personally it's a myth at our house when taken in moderation, but I would encourage each of you to do what you feel is best.  Keep in mind that every cancer patient's condition is different and each patient reacts differently to medications, nutrition and everyday remedies.

I'll look forward to hearing from you....let me know how things have been going along your cancer journey over these past few weeks.  Although I have not been posting, be assured that I have been thinking of all of you whom I have met through my blog.

Oops..apparently I wrote this two days ago, but had to renew my domain registration before the blog became available..hope you can all read this!