Saturday, October 25, 2008

Have You Forgotten the Caregiver?

MUSIC: "I Have Been Blessed"

As I checked through the mail yesterday, there was an envelope addressed to me from a friend. I could determine that there was a card inside, and I immediately began to ponder these thoughts

" it's not my birthday, there is no special occasion happening, so I wonder why she is sending me a card?"

As I quickly revealed the contents, I read the words "Thinking of You" and upon opening it's cover, the following verse:

"Hope today is a good day for you, and that tomorrow is even better"

and it was personally signed "just wanted to let you know we were thinking about you today!"

A few days earlier, I had received a card from my sister-in-law who lives quite a distance away. There was a beautiful pink flower on it's cover and very carefully inscripted words inside of

"I saw this card and thought about you......"

Then there was a telephone call from a dear friend, just wanting to know how things were going this week and how "I" was doing......"

Why am I telling you this?

As caregivers, we all need that little boost to help get us through difficult days. Having constant worry about our loved ones as well as the extra reponsibilites that go along with being a caregiver, is not an easy task. I am very fortunate in that my husband continues to do so well, but at the same time, it does not lessen my worries and stress levels on days when he's having the slightest bit of downtime or when I'm accompanying him for medical tests.

There's another wonderful friend who never fails to ask me this question "every" time we get together:

"And how are you doing?
If there's anything I can do to help, just ask"

Just hearing those words and repeating them on days when I need it most, helps to renew my energies and gets me back into a positive mode once again.

Yes, it's the little things that we do without even realizing it, that makes such a BIG difference in the lives of caregivers. Words of encouragement or a warm smile to show how much you admire what they do, makes such a difference when they need it most.

If you know a caregiver, please take the time to let them know you are thinking of them and make a point during your conversation to ask the question of

"And How Are You Doing?"
Personally, I would have never imagined myself as ever being a caregiver, but this is one role which I consider very blessed to have the opportunity to lead.

Why don't you reach out today to a caregiver who you know. It's such a simple act of caring and you'll never imagine how much it will mean to that person.


Anonymous said...

I'm glad you wrote about this. I'm a caregiver and no one ever thinks to ask how I am. If I just knew that someone care about me it would sure help.

Anonymous said...

Your are so right Debbie. Very few of us take the time to tell our caregivers how much we appreciate all that they do for us.
They are our lifeline for sure and the ones who have to put up with so much from irritable patients.

Anonymous said...

Good post! Yes, caregivers are usually the forgotten ones in all of this. Not that we need recognition for what we do but at times encouragement would certainly help us, especially when I'm having a bad day.