Tuesday, October 07, 2008

Making That Call Can "Make" All the Difference

Music: I Just Called.....(Stevie Wonder)

Cancer patients, caregivers and their families need inspiration. They need to know that others care and sometimes a simple thing like making a telephone call, can bring so much encourgagement to their day. In an earlier post, I wrote of how that constant telephone ringing can put you in a frenzy, but that's when the diagnosis is first made and lives are in such turmoil. Once things settle down with the patient, you should keep in touch and let them know you care and are there for them.

Fall has arrived, and most of us all feel that with the end of summer and fading blooms, it is a time when our "get up and go" attitudes slowly fade away. Now is the time to check in with those in need.

Yesterday I telephoned a caregiver who husband has been taken off chemo and sent home without any sign of hope. They are at a very low point right now, and my husband and I can relate, as we've been in similiar circumstances. I decided to give a quick call, just to say hello and offer my help if needed. Instantly this caregiver was so eager to just talk. She was having a very difficult morning and my calling gave her encouragement that she was so desperately seeking. Such a simple act on my part, but that telephone call made such a huge impact on her day.

Another call later to a patient, also helped to encourage her to keep the faith. This individual is usually an optimistic person and not one who gives up easily, but knowing that someone cared enough to check on her, gave her that extra boost of inspiration. Receiving chemo or radiation treatments, dealing with it's side effects and losing your hair, certainly puts trivial problems into perspective.

We don't have to be sick to crave encouragement and inspiration from others. It's what helps us get through our difficult days. So when someone is trying to cope with illness or caregiving, it is so very important to let them know you are there. It only takes a few minutes to make that call and help brighten someone's day.

Caring cures people - both the ones who give it and the ones who receive it


Anonymous said...

After reading your post, I went immediately and called a friend who is caregiver to her husband. Thanks for giving me that extra push.

Anonymous said...

Love the music Debbie. It really helps me start my day, especially when I'm having a difficult one. Keep the writings coming as I enjoy them thoroughly.

Anonymous said...

I know how much a call from someone helps to lift my spirits. Thanks for reminding others to do the same.

Great website Debbie.

Anonymous said...

Good for people to know.