Saturday, November 29, 2008
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Thursday, November 27, 2008
Wednesday, November 26, 2008
Tuesday, November 25, 2008
Thursday, November 20, 2008
"Because of Who You Are"
A few days ago while entering a local mall, I encountered a young lady walking with her daughter and her elderly mom trying to desparately keep up as they hurried towards the parking lot. Very loud shouts of "Hurry up old lady" and "Next time you are staying home" could easily be heard from the young woman as she constantly kept turning around and accosting her mom. My first thought was of the ignorance and disrespect that was being displayed while the little granddaughter looked on. More importantly though was the young woman's disregard for not appreciating the great blessing she had of still having her mother, alive and well and able to accompany her to the mall. Such a small blessing maybe, but one that many take for granted.
It seems that it's sometimes not until illness strikes that we suddenly begin to realize just what is important in life and how many blessings we actually have every day to be so very thankful for. Those families like ours who are affected by cancer, definitely learn very quickly to appreciate every blessing.
A scan that gives a report of stability is such a wonderful blessing
A day when there are very few or no side effects felt by a cancer patient after receiving chemo or radiation treatments is a true blessing
A patient who can laugh in any given day after having suffered pain and discomfort on sooooo many difficult days is a true blessing
Finding the right cancer treatment that is showing favourable results after trying many others, is a true blessing
Desperately finding a solution that actually eases an irritable side effect is a true blessing
Interacting with other cancer patients and caregivers to provide support and encouragement is a true blessing
A cancer patient who is enjoying a relatively "good" day from sun up to sun down, is a true blessing
Wednesday, November 19, 2008
Kidney Cancer Canada has an upcoming presestation on November 27th that is available via a webcast BUT you must first "register" before it is accessible. Here is the link
Everyone is talking about the ACOR website. It is a resource for ALL cancer patients. I've never been on it myself but intend to check it out. So I'm sending along the following link
Monday, November 17, 2008
The second time I climbed this same mountain the journey was much easier as I discovered a path to the summit - one that had been very noticeably worn down by other adventurers. Without obstructions in my way though, my expendition as mountain climber became less meaningful.
The view from the top was breathless, with miles of ocean across the horizon as far as the eye could see. It was the pinnacle of mother nature and so much worth all of my efforts to reach it's peak. My point to remember is that we all face mountains in our lives of varying heights.
I'd like to share a moment that my daughter and I experienced when my husband was first diagnosed with terminal cancer many, many months ago. It was mid-summer and all three of us had gone inside a local clothing store. My husband walked towards the men's department while my daughter and I strolled towards the ladies section. We briefly looked at the various apparel with little interest as our main concern was keeping a close eye on my husband from a distance. We bothed watched as he looked over several pairs of men's dress pants. He'd take each pair up individually and then slowly lay them back on the rack again. This continued a few times, before I finally knew what he was thinking:
"Why would I buy new clothing, when I only have a few weeks left to live?"
It was a heart wrenching moment for my daugher and I, and we could only imagine just what was going through my husband's mind. We left the store that day very sad, for it was not our intention to remind my husband of the time he supposedly had left.
Now, many, many months later, my husband continues to beat the odds. It has not been without climbing a few mountains along the way, but he scales each one with great courage and determination to reach it's summit. For the most part, each climb has been difficult for him with alot of obstacles along it's path, but it has led him to a mountain top that shows him so much inspiration to NEVER QUIT!
I trust that other cancer patients reading this post, will decide also to not quit, even when the journey may seem so very difficult to travel.
My husband has purchased and also been given many articles of clothing since that memorable day at the store. Looking back now, after receiving such devastating news back then, he could have just given up and probably would most definitely have died. His positive attitude and determination to NEVER GIVE UP has taught all of us a very valuable lesson in climbing our own personal mountains in life.
Listen closely to the song today Mountains by Lonestar and especially these lyrics
There are times in life when you gotta crawl, Lose your grip, trip and fall
When you can't lean on no one else,That's when you find yourself
I've been around and I've noticed that Walk-in's easy when the road is flat
Them danged 'ole hills will get you every time.
Yeah, the good Lord gave us mountains so we could learn how to climb
Thursday, November 13, 2008
Men, now it's your turn to tell that special woman just how much her courage and strength inspires you.
I dream a painting, and then I paint my dream.
Vincent van Gogh
Never complaining, always feeling "good" and determined to never quit!
Courage is being afraid, but going on anyhow.
Some of our male cancer friends today are preparing for surgery, others are recovering from recent surgery and more are encountering some unexpected side effects from cancer treatments. We know it's a difficult road to travel, but your strength and courage is a wonder to behold and you definitely are raising the bar towards finding that cure for cancer!!! Don't quit, you are a winner!
And for those men in your lives who you sometimes take for granted....make this day an opportunity for you to tell them just how much they mean to you.
It is not until you see your loved one go through such adversity, that you finally realize the true measure of a man!
Wednesday, November 12, 2008
A major component of getting through the adversities that cancer brings to patients and their loved ones, is support. Bottom line is that we all need each other's encouragement and inspiration to help get us through and if anyone tries to travel this road alone, then it will indeed be almost impossible to do.
One thing I've come to realize over these past two years is that it's only those who are affected directly with cancer, who can truly understand just what the patient, caregiver or immediate family are going through on their difficult days. That's why it's very important to have that connection with someone else who is also going through similiar experiences to share concerns and more especially that special someone to lean on, when you so desparately need to.
Support of family and friends is vital as well. There's nothing like spending that "normal" time with those who have always been there for you. Maybe you'll share a meal together, visit friends, talk about any subject that does not contain the word CANCER and during that time, that little opportunity to live that moment as though you don't have a worry or care at all, will help to rejuvenate your soul and do you a world of good!
Tonight, I'm having some friends for supper...heck, I'm going to ask more people over from now on. Seems I've been postponing this way too much and it doesn't matter that you go through all kinds of meal preparation - no one even notices, just have the usual but most important share your time with others who can help keep you grounded and erase your struggles with cancer during that special time you spend together.
For those of you who probably don't have someone to share your difficult days with, remember you can always find those in similiar situations by searching other cancer websites or by joining us on our Cancer Cafe chat forum.
Monday, November 10, 2008
Saturday, November 08, 2008
Thought I'd add an upbeat tune to get your day started...we all need distractions like this to get our adrenaline going on difficult days.
Hopefully this particular tune I've chosen will help us boomers reflect on how our days were once soooooo crazy when the kids were young, but mostly it will help to lighten the heavy hearts of many viewers who are dealing with very difficult health issues.
Last night we had some friends stop by and it was a good evening of sharing friendship and laughter...a great prescription to lift one's spirits!
Thursday, November 06, 2008
Sorry I haven't posted in a couple of days. It's been a busy week!
I am very happy that many of my viewers are meeting each other on our Cancer Cafe chat forum. Everyone is so caring and together we are certainly creating quite a support group for each other. Just this morning I have received emails from other cancer patients in the UK and Scotland who are anxious to join our chat, but due to the time differences are finding it difficult to meet alot of us. We will however find a way to connect.
If I have learned anything since my husband's cancer diagnosis, it is by sharing conversations with others who are affected by cancer, we learn excellent information about what works and we find encouragement to help us get through those difficult days.
I met a man yesterday who is presently receiving radiation treatments...he is amazing! He reminded me so much of my husband with regards to his positive attitude and his determination to not let any obstacles stand in his way during his fight against cancer. He receives his treatmenst on a daily basis. He goes to work every day, arrives at the cancer clinic just in time for his radiation, then returns to his place of business to finish the day. What an inspiring man this is! And to think that there are so many other people out there who complain over the simplest little thing when something goes wrong.
Cancer patients certainly teach other's the true definition of strength. After watching the way my husband deals with his cancer, our family no longer whines when we are experiencing little aches or pains. Why would we? We just pass it aside, because we know first hand what dealing with a real illness means.
Here is a quote that I found awhile ago and it is so very true:
Monday, November 03, 2008
The chat forum on this site was only started about a month ago, but already our community of caring participants is growing continuously. My original goal for introducing the chat on my website, was to provide a place where cancer patients, caregivers, and others could chat directly with viewers who share similiar experiences and gain encouragement and support. It is a LIVE CHAT so there's no waiting to receive a reply....it's instant response. Just like you are conversing right there in the same room, only this is a virtual room.
It's amazing how you can become friends with someone whom you never personally met. I've already written a post about this particular topic sometime ago, and here's the link if you wish to refresh your mind
When I originally wrote this, I had not been exposed to this Live Chat experience and it sure does put a perspective on innovations in communication. Sure, I've visited other websites and more especially those that are cancer related. They offer excellent information to their viewers which is vital for all of us who are searching for it, I've also posted messages on websites when I've been searching so desperately for answers to unknowns about my husband's cancer and it's side effects, but I've never found a cancer site that offers a Live Chat for those who want to talk instantly with other cancer patients, caregivers, and family or friends who have also been affected at just the mention of the word "CANCER".
Why is a live chat important? It provides the chatters an opportunity to exchange their experiences with others, such as types of cancer treatments they may be taking, it's side effects, what works to eleviate patient's side effects, and the list goes on. For caregivers, it is a place where we can VENT.....all of us experience difficult days as caregivers and just having that special someone who understands EXACTLY what you are going through, really helps take the edge off a difficult day. For family and friends who are affected by cancer, it's a place where you can converse with others in similiar situations. Our
This Cancer Cafe chat forum is NOT specific to kidney cancer patients and their loved ones. It is open to ALL cancer patients and their families. I hope to meet you there!
My music selection today is also a reflection of power, but in a different way. As you listen to the rendition of this beautiful selection, you will instantly hear the magnitude of Josh Groban's vocal abilities. It was by chance that this young man's talent was discovered, as he was unexpectedly invited by David Foster to fill in for Andrea Bocelli at the 1999 Grammys. And the rest, as we say is hostory......................
A horrific football accident resulted in total blindness for the renowned operatic tenor Andrea Bocelli, at the tender age of 12. His vocal talents grew worldwide only because of his determination to keep reaching from within through his strenth and spirit.
I'm writing this short post today to empower my viewers to use your inner strength and power to soar above adversities, especially when you think you are falling so far from the finish line. You can do it!!!........ but it will take determination on your part.
Today might be a difficult one for many, as you receive another chemo or radiation treatment, have to undergo challenging tests or receive an unexpected medical report. I trust you will discover your
Saturday, November 01, 2008
Today I heard about a woman who has received a diagnosis of terminal cancer with only a two month longevity. She has decided to just quit........plain out quit! She's not even going to talk about it to anyone...not even her immediate family, she's not going to learn anything about her type of cancer, she's not going to talk to anyone else who may be experiencing good results with the same type of cancer, or she's not even going to try and find more information via this world wide web or through a cancer support group......she's basically just going to curl up and eventually die without even trying to live!
That is such a pity, but at the same time I can imagine somewhat of how she must be feeling. Her doctor has only given her two months.....that is a topic for another day, as my husband can attest to being given a length of time which he has left to live and I sure hope this patient of whom I speak knows that my husband is still here, many months after he was supposed to have died.
He's not the only one! This is not a unique case. Just join our chat forum and speak to Mary, whose husband has survived his original longevity in a way that will not only amaze you, but also inspire even the most desperate patient out there.
After hearing about his woman who has decided to cut all ties with everyone and just give in to cancer, I just had to write this post. I sure hope she reads this and if any of you know of another person who is in a similiar situation, please pass along my words to them. You see, know one can truly predict anyone's future....we all live in adversity. It might not be as a cancer patient, but we all face challenges in life that at some point, might instill in us the need to just give up.
This cancer patient needs to know that she could be the very patient who just might blaze a trail for others who are facing a similiar diagnosis......whether they be children, middle-aged or seniors. If everyone just gave up, then there would not be many advances in medical science. There would be no innovations in cancer treatments, there would be no statistics of patients who have beaten the odds and most of all, there would be no " HEROS" in all of cancer history.
I really hope that she takes a second look at her options....even though the future may not seem very optimistic right now, she should remember that others have also heard similiar words but they have chosen to fight. Your family is counting on you.....so just don't take the easy road and quit! And also remember that you are not the first person who's been given a short term for life, but if you quit, you will be one of the statistics who probably will confirm what the doctor predicted.
If you look at the picture of this yellow bloom that I took just last week, on October 30th on my potentilla outside, you will see that it's a little withered after all summer, but it's still blooming!
There's alot to be learned from looking at this photo. Usually at this time of year, all of the blooms have disappeared, but this one lonely yellow bloom has survived the flowers normal longevity!!!! Wow, just read that sentence once again.........
You see, if you don't even try, then there is NO hope, but if you try, you'll probably be amazed at the results!!!
We are all rooting for you and remember that you can join us in the chat forum for encouragement and inspiration.