Sunday, March 20, 2011

Spring Has Sprung - LIFE IS GOOD

It's the first day of SPRING !    Winter is finally fading and in my flower garden the pheony shoots are already up about two inches.  The evenings are getting longer now that the clocks are set ahead and just seeing more daylight seems to rejuvenate the soul. 

Recently I have heard the phrase LIFE IS GOOD  from so many venues,  and I know personally that indeed it is!  Our family has soooo many things to be thankful for, and we ARE.  A couple of weeks ago my husband was not feeling well, no, not well at all.  Thankfully though things have settled and he is feeling better than he's been in weeks.  It's like he's been given a new lease on life.  Now that is something to celebrate and appreciate indeed.

We know the cancer is still there, but when there are good days, enjoy every moment of them. 

One thing I have learned during all of this time that my husband has had cancer, is that the majority of cancer patients as well as their families, always dwell on the negatives once they hear the diagnosis of cancer.  Honestly, have you heard alot about the positives???  I'm guessing your answer is a definite "NO".

Positivity is vital if you want to give cancer a run for it's money.  So, now that mother nature has pulled back her shades and lifted her veil of winter, it's time for each of us to look at the positives in our lives.  Cancer may be in your medical history, but don't let it envelope your life.  Get out there and enjoy life - especially on your good days. You WILL have good days ahead, no matter how you may feel today. 

Use this new season of spring to feel more energized, to think more positively and to be inspired!!!

Saturday, March 12, 2011

Do NOT Worry

It's been a stressful week around here.  After some hospital tests and not great results, my husband had to go back for more testing yesterday.  Of course, whenever your medical reports show problems, it is only natural to worry - and worry we all did.  Thankfully though, after yesterday's results, his health problem was caused by something very easy to remedy.  Apparently he was taking too many meds to control pain - they were over the counter meds. 

Lessons learned here after this week's anxiety are:

Don't take over the counter meds until you check with your oncologist or doctor first.  We have called upon his oncologist so many times in the past for major events and this time to be honest it really didn't even occur to me to give him a call, as my husband's pain condition did not seem to be something I should contact our oncologist about.  Apparently, if we had called him right away, then he would have prescribed the correct medication or ordered the correct tests and things would have cleared up much faster.  My husband was taking over the counter meds that we had here at home along with a couple of others that he recently purchased and thought they would definitely help.  Wrong thing to do! 

-  Another lesson that I have learned or at least will "try" to keep refreshed in my mind is Not To Worry until we know what the problem is.  It's only natural of course to worry with stressful happenings around here most of the time.  Seems as caregiver, we are the ones who take the most worry.  We try to shield those we love from thinking the worse and we have learned all the tricks and the trades to do this, but in the end we are the ones who feel the emotional stress on a personal level.  Not good for your health at all - so today I'm destressing, or at least going to try my best to, as today's song says,  DON'T WORRY- BE HAPPY!

Look at the birds of the air
   They do not sow or reap or store away in barns
and yet your heavenly Father feeds them.
   Are you not much more valuable than they?
                                               Matthew 6:26

Monday, March 07, 2011

Words That Encourage

Some days I honestly don't know how my husband keeps going.  Remember how you feel sometimes when you get a cold or the flu?  All you want to do is just lay down, sleep - you may feel achy and weak at times.  Can you imagine how terrible you would feel if you were sick just about everyday?

My husband hasn't been feeling his best recently - when I think back - I honestly can't remember one day when he felt absolutely well.  It sure has been quite awhile.  It's difficult to keep motivated when you are sick and as I said earlier, I don't know how he keeps inspired on those difficult days. 

My daughters and I try to do what we can to help keep his spirits up on challenging days. Recently I found some excellent greeting cards with verses that inspire and here's one that we recently gave him.  Such a simple thing to do, send a card to someone who is not well, but for the most part, I'm sure many of us don't always take the time to do that.  I myself am guilty of that.  Yes, I send birthday cards, anniversary cards and Christmas cards, but I don't usually send cards that inspire those who need it most. 

The thought behind the card is what counts the most.  Yes, the verse is necessary, but knowing a friend or family member actually took the time to let you know they cared is what definitely inspires someone who is not feeling well.  A card is something that can remain in a room endlessly for all to see and it's something there for those not feeling well to look at when they come into a room to remind them that someone cares.  Everyone needs support, we all need each other at some point in our lives and sending a card seems to be such a simple act of kindness for those who need it most.

You can purchase really good cards now especially designed for those who need inspiration.  There are cards designed especially for cancer patients, cards that are under the "Encouragement" section, as well as "Thinking of You" cards.  If you have a local bible store close by, then you will find excellent cards with bible verses that are guaranteed to heal the downhearted and mend discouraged minds.

Dealing with cancer is NOT easy - not by any means of the imagination.  It's a road where one hour you may feel good and the next, you may feel terrible.  If your loved one or someone you know has cancer, why not go and get them a card today, to show how much you care. 

I'm off to get our mail - who knows, maybe there's a card for my husband there today.  If so, he will certainly be uplifted!

Saturday, March 05, 2011

Giving Feels Good

Last month one of my posts  "The Exorbitant Cost of Cancer"  described the high costs that cancer brings to families.  Reading about these costs do not really hit home, until you or someone you personally know, is facing financial hardship - so much so that their cancer drugs are too costly or their recommended cancer treatment cannot be accessed because of affordability.  No cancer drugs or no cancer treatment will mean that a patient's life is in the balance even more.

Can that really happen in our societies of today?  Yes, it most definitely can and it does! 

I want to let you know of an individual who I have met via my blog whose husband is presently fighting colon cancer.  He is such a brave and courageous soul who is relentless along this cancer journey.  In life, we all need each other's support.  None of us can actually get through our lives without help, sometimes from family and friends, but sometimes from those whom we do not personally know but those who are quite willing to lend a hand.  In reality, it takes a community to make a difference.

In today's post, I would like you to read my friend's blog Ron's Road 2 RecoveryIf you then scroll down the right side of this blog you will see a "Ron's Road 2 Recovery Fund" gadget where the family is hoping to raise $5000 to aid in the cost of Ron's cancer treatment.  At the moment, they have presently raised just over $1100.00 and I congratulate all those who have contributed. By default, the amount to give of $76.00 appears, but once you access the program you can make a contribution of any amount - even $1.00 I'm sure would be welcomed - and you and your contribution can remain anonymous if you so choose to do this.

After I had initially written about the high costs that cancer brings to families, Ron's wife wrote the following post My Two-Cents Worth on the Cost of Cancer.  I trust you will take the time to read it, as then you will know and understand how this particular family has personally struggled with the financial burden that cancer brings.

Not too long ago, I was speaking with a friend and our topic was about giving to those in need.  He looked at me and said "I honestly don't know how you find people who are in financial need, if I could find someone, I would help them!" reply was, "All you really need to do is just take a look around".

So this morning I was thinking about Ron and about how I might be able to help him and his family.  My solution was to write about it in today's post.  Maybe you, like my friend, also find it difficult sometimes to find that particular someone who you can reach out to financially. 
I'm going to make a donation this morning to Ron.  I should have done it a long time ago, but like most everyone, I didn't, and then my initial intentions got pushed aside and forgotten about. 

My blog is not about soliciting money but it is about helping cancer patients and their families whether it be through information about cancer, by providing moral support when it's needed or for today, it's about providng financial support for someone who I know will be truly grateful for whatever amount you can contribute to Ron's Recovery Fund.

Each of us CAN make a difference - Today I will be humbled to know that I have helped another person along this cancer highway in my own small way.  Yes, Giving Unto Others Who Need It Most, Feels Good!!!

In everything I did, I showed you that by this kind of hard work we must help the weak, remembering the words the Lord Jesus himself said: “It is more blessed to give than to receive.” – Acts 20:35

Tuesday, March 01, 2011


I am going to have a LIVE CHAT right here on my blog in the opening Chat Forum this Thursday, March 3rd beginning at 6:30PM Eastern Standard Time.

Just access my website as usual, then enter your name in the SignIn area of the Chat or just press SignIn and appear as a Guest.

This chat will be a place for cancer patients, caregivers and families to chat with others for support and encouragement or just to connect with someone who truly understands.  I hope you can join us.  My name as creator of this blog will appear as Deb1 on the chat.

Hope to meet you on

Thursday, March 3rd beginning 6:30 Eastern Standard Time (please check your local time zone to ensure you don't miss us)